We admit it: we love our smartphones. Being able to answer an email before even getting out of bed. Being able to respond to a client while checking in at the airport. Being able to manage all of the moving pieces of an event with apps and widgets and social media. Yes, smartphones are marvels of modern technology that make our jobs (and lives) easier.

But sometimes, smartphone usage just needs to be curbed. A prime example? At weddings. Without a set of polite guidelines, your guests may feel the need to Snapchat your entire ceremony or miss the “I do” because of a tweet. Keep these guidelines in mind, and consider developing your own social media policy for your wedding or event.

Tag It:
Hashtags are great because they organize all of the social media posts from your event, no matter where they are posted. You, your guests, and friends who couldn’t make it will be able to see photos quickly and easily. If you’re OK with your guests being on social media during your ceremony or reception, ask them to tag their photos with a specific hashtag. #JackandJillGetMarried, #TheSmithWedding or a clever play on your new last name are fun ways to brand your event on social media.

No Sneak Peaks:
It is completely acceptable to ask your bridal party not to take or post photos before your wedding. If a photo leaks before the ceremony, it could ruin the surprise of everyone seeing you walk down the aisle. Leave it to the photographers to capture the special moments of you and your groom getting ready.

Unplugged Wedding:
It is also acceptable to request that your guests leave their cellphones in their car or purse. We can think of four reasons why this is a good idea.
First, you want your guests to be aware and present for the event, not scrolling through their newsfeed. Putting down the phones encourages conversation and celebration.
Second, it shows respect for the photographers and ensures that they don’t have to dodge iPhones and iPads competing for a photo.
Third, it maintains the intimacy of your wedding. You get to control what the outside world sees of your wedding and reception.
And fourth, it eliminates the awkwardness of having to ask someone to take down an unflattering picture of you or a family member.

If you choose to have a tech-free wedding, politely convey it on your wedding website and again on your program.

On Selfie Sticks:
Nothing gets out of hand quite as quickly as a selfie stick. Selfie sticks are frowned upon by many establishments because they create a distraction. Ask that your guests leave their selfie sticks at home. If you want a group photo, a photographer will be happy to accommodate.

Of course, you’ll want to find the social media and smartphone policy that suits your wishes. You may want guests to be phone-free for the ceremony but hashtag away at the reception. Or you may want to tease the groom with snaps of everyone except the bride before the ceremony. Think about how you want your guests and bridal party to interact with each other and with technology. Make sure your wishes are clearly and politely stated to everyone.
Now if you’ll excuse us, our smartphones are ringing.